Tuesday, 26 October 2010

Eradicating Anger


"Anger is never without reason, but seldom with a good one."
 Benjamin Franklin

Parenting provides us with powerful prospects for practicing patience. Few parents are immune to sporadic, or sometimes regular, outbursts of anger. After all, we can only ask so many times for a room to be tidied, a table to be cleared, a child to go to bed, and so on, before it all becomes too much.

As a child my mother taught me a powerful lesson about being angry - Anger costs." This was vividly demonstrated to me one day when I took a lump of wood to my surfboard in anger. As I have considered anger in my own family experiences since becoming a father, the costs seem far greater than some damaged foam and fibreglass. Instead, the costs of anger involve my own wellbeing, and the happiness of my children.

A mentor and friend of mine, Dr. H. Wallace Goddard, has catalogued five myths about anger in his book, Soft-Spoken Parenting. I have summarised them below.

Thursday, 21 October 2010

The Trouble with Time-Out

Overheard at a mother's group earlier this week:

"I keep putting my four year-old son in time out, but it doesn't seem to work. Nothing changes!"

Thursday, 14 October 2010

Kids, Sport, and Competition

In preparation for an interview with a newspaper, I have been reviewing some research about children's involvement in sports, and how competition can affect their interest.

Is competition bad for children? Should kids be fighting it out for competition points? And is it ok for there to be winners and losers on the sports field?