Wednesday, 29 June 2011

Taming the Terrible Two’s Tantrums

In most supermarkets today, while you are reading this, a two year-old is having a tantrum, screaming at the top of his voice, “I WANT A LOLLIPOP” over and over again.

Wednesday, 15 June 2011

Raising Gritty Kids

Courage does not always roar.
Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the end of the day saying,
"I will try again tomorrow."
                 --Mary Ann Radmacher

Have you ever noticed how some kids can be easily discouraged? They experience a setback that sees their shoulders slump, heads bow, and bodies drag.

Other children, however, seem to possess an unstoppable urge to push through problems. Sure, they get down and feel lousy when things don't work out, but within minutes - sometimes within seconds - they're back at it again. Trying, trying, bouncing back and working at things again.

The capacity for perserverance and enduring on the way to mastery of a challenge is referred to as "grit", and grit appears to be a considerable factor in the success we, and our children, achieve in life.

Thursday, 9 June 2011

How to Teach Your Child Self-Control

Self control is the ability to say "no" when you really want to say "yes"! Self control is delaying gratification and controlling our impulses.

In 1972 one of the classic psychology experiments of all time was done. Children's self control was being tested. The experimenter, Walter Mischel, brought children into his laboratory one at a time. They sat at a table and were shown a marshmallow on a plate. They were told they could eat it now, or if they waited a few minutes until he returned they could have two!

Here's some superb (and very funny) footage of how it looked.

Saturday, 4 June 2011

Tired of Nagging the Kids? Here's a Simple Solution

In a recent unscientific poll that I took with a roomful of parents, nearly 100% of those parents agreed that the one thing that really really made them mad (to do with their kids) was... asking, and asking, and asking again for some simple task to be done.

"They should just do it the first time!"

Wouldn't it be great if we didn't have to nag? Imagine if we spoke and - hey presto - the children complied. Our homes would be, well, heavenly.

However, our children are not automatons, nor are they robots or slaves. They are people. They have preferences, priorities, and minds of their own.