This is my final post for 2012. I'm going to spend the next few weeks practicing what I preach with some (hopefully) uninterrupted time with my family.
Thank you - so much - for reading this blog. I appreciate, so much, seeing so many people coming here and getting ideas for how to make their families happier.
Have a most wonderful, Holy Christmas (or just a merry one if you're less religiously inclined). See you back here on the blog sometime in January 2013. Some BIG changes are coming to the website and I can't wait to share them with you.
|Christmas is Family - Source: Tim Coulson|
"I don't want anything. I've got everything I need."As I have gotten older I have found myself echoing my Dad's refrain every year when we ask him what he wants for Christmas.
"I don't want anything. I've got everything I need."And just like he means it, I mean it too. For me, it's about time with my family - and that's it. So long as I'm hanging out with the people I love, and we're doing fun stuff together, maybe with a little sleep-in, cuddles with the kids, and some nice food, the day is perfect.
It's about presence, not presents.
A week or two ago I was asked to be on the TODAY show, but it wasn't to talk parenting. Instead, I was asked to chat about a range of 'hot' gifts for kids. We played with Nerf guns, i-pad controlled cars, fairy doors, and more. The toys were fun, and I felt that some would be clearly more beneficial than others for kids.
As I left the TV studio and travelled the 90 minutes home, I thought about all of the Christmases I experienced as a child. I thought about all the gifts I had sought... those things I just had to have. Aside from a watch that I wanted as a nine year-old, and a holiday I received as an 18 year-old, I couldn't remember ANY of the gifts I'd received.
None of them. At all. (Sorry mum.) I even struggled to recall things I've received in recent years. And that's weird to me because when I was a child my Christmas wish-list was long..
I have no recollection of all of the things that I
Perhaps it's something to do with childhood. Maybe it's genetic, or even biologically ingrained. Developmental?
But I do remember the Christmas we went camping at Forster and spent a week by the beach. We did it again at Greenmount/Coolangatta. And I remember the Christmas at my aunt and uncle's place at Rose Bay. I remember Christmases where we were together as a family, playing in parks or at beaches, or swimming in the pool.
This got me thinking.
We love giving, so give. But remember that the kids will probably leave the toys on the shelf, stop patting the puppy, and they'll forget the cool 'stuff' you give them... with one exception.
They won't ever forget the time that you give them. They'll always remember the cuddles, the play, the wrestling, the laughing, and the games. More than that, they'll always remember the feelings, the kindness, and the love that exists at Christmas.
For the happiest, most perfect family Christmas, I hope that you'll remember that it's about TIME together.